Absence Makes The Heart Grow Fonder


I believe absence makes the heart grow fonder only if a strong foundation of love and friendship has already been laid down. The absence creates an awareness of what beautiful qualities the missing loved one brings into the relationship, such as the kind words, warmth, tenderness, care and all the little other pieces that makes it excruciating to be without or rather to pine for.For longer periods of absence, that should be some form of communication exchanged if only to put each others mind at ease on one another’s well being. There should also be a legitimacy for the long duration spent apart, perhaps for studies or an overseas assignment. But the most important thing of all, is that both parties are committed in the relationship.

On the flip side, I believe absence can make the heart bitter and eventually spiteful too. This happens when the foundation is not strong or if the party feels as though as they are living separate lives. Perhaps due to excessive overseas assignments and limited time spent together as a result. Or it could happen even domestically where one is totally self absorbed, in work or personal hobbies. After all what we ultimately want, is to share our lives with someone. The joys, sorrows, trials, tribulations and all the little idiosyncrasies life has to offer.

On Fatherhood

I remember it like it was yesterday, I doubt I will ever forget unless of course my mental faculties fade away. As it was the one time in my life where I found that being a man, I could actually cry tears of joy. This happened when I first laid eyes on my first born Seth. Within the day of course I experienced a multitude of emotions all rolled up into one. It was exhilarating, agonizing, joyful, filled with anxiety and a whole lot more.To think that prior to being Dad I never really liked children, I was alright being around them for awhile or even playing with them but had no special feelings towards them. Then when the day came we learned we were pregnant; Oh boy! I honestly did not know how to feel, Yes! it was a confirmation that I was a virile all powerful male..*blink**blink* and I was happy no doubt about becoming a father. But I was also terrified, I started worrying about what kind of father I would be? Would my baby be born normal? Would I be able to care for him or her? Would I be able to give him or her a good home? Would I be able to be at very least half the man my father is?

Now 6 years later I find myself still worrying, will they have a good future with a good education? and the lists goes on. But now I can honestly say that I cannot imagine my life without them. And that I truly love them with all my heart and soul. I thank God for giving me two healthy boys Seth and Kenan. I shudder at the thought that he might have given me a daughter? Knowing the person that I am, my worries would be a hundred fold!

I suppose like most parents, we do the best that we can to the best of our abilities. And if you asked me what you could do to be prepared for Fatherhood? I would say……that no matter how prepared you think you are, you will never be! For being a Father transports you into a world of surprises that never ends. ( Well at least for me it hasn’t ha ha )

Chris Rice – When Did You Fall

From the album Amusing

You’re all smiles and silly conversation
As if this sunny day came just for you
You twist your hair, you smile and you turn your eyes away
C’mon, tell me what’s right with you
Now it dawns on me probably everybody’s talkin’
And there’s something here I’m supposed to realize
‘Cause your secret’s out, and the universe laughs at it’s joke on me
I just caught it in your eyes, it’s a beautiful surprise
When did you fall in love with me?
Was it out of the blue
‘Cause I swear I never knew it
When did you let your heart run free?
Have you been waiting long?
When did you fall in love with me?
When did you fall in love?

Make your way over here, sit down by this fool, and let’s rewind
C’mon, let’s go back and replay all our scenes
You can point out the hints, the clues, the twists and the smiles this time
All the ones that slipped by me
I bet my face is red, and you can hear my heart poundin’
Well I guess it don’t matter now that I realize
‘Cause baby I missed it then, but I can surely see you now
Right there before my eyes
You’re my beautiful surprise

Was it at the coffee shop
Or that morning at the bus stop
When you almost slipped, and I caught your hand
Or the time we built the snowman
The day at the beach, sandy and warm
Or the night with the scary thunderstorm
I never saw the signs
Now we’ve got to make up for lost time
And I can tell now by the way that you’re looking at me
I’d better finish this song so my lips will be free

Have you been waiting long, when did you fall in love
I kept you waiting so long, when did you fall
Have you been waiting long
When did you fall in love with me
When did you fall in love?

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Silence Is Golden

There are times when we should open our hearts and let others know how we feel. For it can be a liberating experience, for all parties. But there are other times, the need outweigh the necessity and you end up embarassed and looking the fool. So ponder over it carefully before making your decision.The old saying goes, “Speech is silver, Silence is golden.”

LLWAP ver 0.2

Yo! Yo! for all you cats wondering what LLWAP is well….ha ha it’s Living Life With A Passion!
Last night I was invited by babycakes to the Good Vibrations Festival featuring hip hop legends Beastie Boys, Jurassic 5 and many more kickass artistes. However by the time I got there it was midnight and the show was almost over, but at least I caught the Beastie Boys live for a good hour or more. We then made out way down to Zouk for a post party. The plan was to explore all the different hotspots within the premises but we ended up only at one called ‘Phuture’ because the Dancing Diva was soooo at home and so were we, so we danced the remaining hours away. Well an ‘Uncle’ I may be but I am pretty sure I move better than most of the youngsters *winks*


I felt my heart break today, I knew not that it would,
Sheer agony tore through my very being, and yet I rather it be mine.
Pain whispered to me to tell me that I am still alive, in loud echoes only I can hear.
Broken crimson shards to be pieced together once again!I have walked through the fires to be reborn,
I am stronger and better for it!
My heart is once again pliable for I will it not to turn to stone,
And I will gladly go through it again, for without sacrifice there is no Love!

Goodbye My Love Goodbye – Demis Roussos

hear the wind sing a sad, old song
it knows I’m leaving you today
please dont cry or my heart will break
when I go on my way


goodbye my love goodbye
goodbye and au revoir
as long as you remember me
I’ll never be too far

goodbye my love goodbye
I always will be true
so hold me in your dreams
till I come back to you

see the stars in the skies above
they’ll shine wherever I may roam
I will pray every lonely night
That soon they’ll guide me home

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