Part Time Parent


If you think being a part time parent as a result of a divorce is Bad! How about being one even when you are still Married!  Which do you think is worse?  At least being a part time parent from a divorce gives you an excuse doesn’t it? What excuse do you have if you aren’t?  Have to work very, very hard to earn a living?

Yes we all have to work for a living but I for one make it a point to rush home to be with my kids.  Every moment spent together is a fleeting and special to me and I cannot imagine spending my whole life in the office or on business away from them.

Some parents will tell you that their kids are well taken care of! By the maids, grandparents, boarding school, child-care centres etc.etc.etc. So are they really happy? Well if that is the life they are accustomed to then yeah…. probably, but they will never know or rather get to experience the love that only a Mother and Father can give!

“Who is that man or woman who comes home late and night and leaves early in the morning?” Or”Who is  that man or woman I see on weekends if I’m lucky?” queries the child.  If you behave like strangers then be prepared to be treated as such!

Oh but we make it a point to go on a holiday during the school vacation what?!…..Well good for you….but do you realise it is likely because your kids are still very young and so don’t really have a say in the matter. Just wait till they are older and have a mind of their own, see if you can still convince them to go on holidays together?!  They might if you had built a strong foundation and bonded with them in their formative years; Highly unlikely if you had not!

Children always seem to be on an express train! One minute they are babies the next they school going children,before you know it they are young adults preparing for life ahead!  Cherish every moment you have with them, before it is too late!

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Here is an oldie but goodie…Now if only you understood the lyrics earlier on eh?…..

Cats In The Cradle Lyrics

Artist: Harry Chapin

My child arrived just the other day
He came to the world in the usual way
But there were planes to catch and bills to pay
He learned to walk while I was away
And he was talkin’ ‘fore I knew it, and as he grew
He’d say “I’m gonna be like you dad
You know I’m gonna be like you”

And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin’ home dad?
I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then
You know we’ll have a good time then

My son turned ten just the other day
He said, “Thanks for the ball, Dad, come on let’s play
Can you teach me to throw”, I said “Not today
I got a lot to do”, he said, “That’s ok”
And he walked away but his smile never dimmed
And said, “I’m gonna be like him, yeah
You know I’m gonna be like him”

And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin’ home Dad?
I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then
You know we’ll have a good time then

Well, he came home from college just the other day
So much like a man I just had to say
“Son, I’m proud of you, can you sit for a while?”
He shook his head and said with a smile
“What I’d really like, Dad, is to borrow the car keys
See you later, can I have them please?”

And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin’ home son?
I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then Dad
You know we’ll have a good time then

I’ve long since retired, my son’s moved away
I called him up just the other day
I said, “I’d like to see you if you don’t mind”
He said, “I’d love to, Dad, if I can find the time
You see my new job’s a hassle and kids have the flu
But it’s sure nice talking to you, Dad
It’s been sure nice talking to you”

And as I hung up the phone it occurred to me
He’d grown up just like me
My boy was just like me

And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin’ home son?
I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then dad
You know we’ll have a good time then ….

4 Responses

  1. When I was first sent away to study in Singapore, I missed my Mom dearly. Looking back now, I find it hard to remember what it was like between us then, before the extreme tensions last year.

    I also wonder, and sometimes secretly envy those people who share a close-knitted relationship with their mother or sister, those who treat their moms or dads as best friends and tell them everything.

    I love reading your journal, about your family trips and all! I find it really sweet, how much time you spend together as a family, appreciating little things in life, setting aside special moments for one another!

    Ps/ Kenan and Seth are really adorable 😛

  2. Hey you are adorable too dear, and love seeing you in all the latest fashions when you’re in the mood to model on your blog 😉

    And thanks for taking the time to share….. Parenting doesn’t come with a manual and if it did it certainly would not answer all the questions parents have.

    It is a tough struggle being a good parent as it is being a child. We all make mistakes as we go along, some little ones and some huge ones. But if we love and care enough then we strive to do better each and every time.

    *bear hugs*

  3. e song lyric was shared by my lit tcher in sec 2 i tink… 1st time hear e song…

  4. Wow..great that your teacher would take the trouble to share this song , I believe one of mine shared the song Vincent…

    oh and don’t forget this song when you have kids of your own..you hear…;)

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