So what is Modesty?
In most dictionaries you will find this definition :-
–noun, plural -ties.
1. the quality of being modest; freedom from vanity, boastfulness, etc.
2. regard for decency of behavior, speech, dress, etc.
3. simplicity; moderation.
However in this day and age of high fashion magazines, glamour in the movies and music industry. ‘Modesty is for losers!’ seems to be the tagline for most young adults these days. For a great number ‘less is more!’ and for others “If you have it why not flaunt it?!”
If you are conservative and speak up for modest dressing, you might be branded as one who lacks self esteem, self confidence, stiff necked or just plain uptight!
What I don’t understand is why would women want to objectify themselves by not dressing modestly? Men tend to struggle with sensuality far greater than women do and hence a woman should want to avoid dressing in a way that deliberately draws attention to her sexual values and hence obscure her value as a person to them. But why is it my responsibility to dress modestly? If a man struggles with lustful thoughts, that’s his problem not mine!” laments some women. But this objection misses the point! The purpose of modesty is not merely to help prevent men from stumbling into impure thoughts. Modesty of dress is primarily meant to protect woman herself. It helps keep the woman from being treated as an object for sexual pleasure.
Modesty Checklist and Tips
- Are any of your tops so sheer that others can see your bra or so low-cut, allowing cleavage to show? Do your shirts reveal your abdomen or back? Do any of your shirts have sexually suggestive slogans (such as “sexy” or “flirt”)?
- Do you have to suck in your stomach to zip any of your paints? Do any of your jeans ride so low that your underwear can be seen?
- Do any of your skirts ride excessively high above the knee when you are seated? Do any of the slits come too far up your leg?
- The B’s. Any body part that starts with a “B” – you know them – should never be showing. Easy as that.
- Sit, Bend and Reach. It’s just a simple test. Sit to see if your pants are too low. Bend over to see if your shirt is too low, then reach your hands up to see if it’s too short
- Kleenex. Do you know how thin and see-through a Kleenex is? It’s fine for your nose but not for your clothes. If you can see through your shirt, get a new one.
- Mirror. Your best friend when it comes to modesty. If you look in the mirror and question, “Is it too tight? Too short? Too thin? Too low?” it probably is, so find something else to wear.
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